Posted by: Scribble | 30/06/2008

Another visit to Hospital

Five years is a long time to be ill.  The Other Half (TOH) has been in and out of hospital druing these long years, with no real progress being made.  Long journeys up the motorway to hospital have become almost automatic and I no longer have to think about where I am going.  I drive, we arrive, I drive and we arrive.  It does give me time for thought, occasionally time for chat depending on how the TOH is feeling.  On the other hand, it can be pretty boring.

The last couple of visits have been to a fairly new part of the hospital which at least appears to be clean but whilst it may be clean it can be pretty ineficient.  For example, last time we were there, we were waiting to be ‘signed out’,  we saw the surgeon who carried out the procedure who described what he had done and how well it went etc etc, he then disappeared and another doctor arrived to re-explain what the surgeon had just explained, though we didn’t ask him to but asked him if he could organise the release so we could home.  We had afterall waited all day for the surgeon to visit and check on the patient and he had said he could go home.  After him another person arrived, a registrar I think and although we had told the one before that we had been told we could go, he still insisted on checking everything over agian.  Finally he came back with the paperwork, agreed about a follow up appointment and passed the paperwork on to the nurses at the reception.  This process took all day and half the evening.  We were at the point where we were just going to leave without the ‘sign off’ when the nurse came and said we could go.

Told the follow up appointment would be sent in the post, it nevertheless, despite going through at least three people, didn’t arrive.  Eventaully I rang up and without acknowledging that they hadn’t sent an appointment, managed to make it seem as if we had failed to turn up for the appointment that wasn’t made in the fist place, and I was told firmly that if we didn’t turn up for the next one, we would be struck off the list.  At this point I felt I lived in Topsy Turvy land.

During the previous visit, there were a lot of staff and it was busy.  They adhered strictly to all instructions in the  ‘patient care’ manual.  They removed any drugs TOH had in his possession – lots, and locked them up in a cabinet next to his bed and took away the key.  He has a lot of pills and potions and each time he needed any he had to call a nurse who invariably turned up ages later.  Each time, she and another member of staff, had to count out the pills he was having and count the remainder as if someone somehow might have picked the lock and stolen some.  It was all anoyingly pedantic and when one nurse noticed that a pill was missing she accusingly looked at TOH and demanded to know where it was, looking bemused he said he had already had that one at home prior to arriving, all quite in order, in fact.

Funnily enough, this time around, going in for the same procedure in the same place, although it wasn’t busy there seemed to be less staff.  No one took away his pills and potions, no one locked them up and no one counted them out when he needed them.  Bizzare.

Of course the surgeon who assured us that only he with his skills could carry out this surgery and promised that he himself would do so, was not there.  TOH arrived in theatre, all drugged and drowsy to see a stranger there and demanded to know who he was.  He was the surgeons assistant apparently.  TOH managed in a drug foggy haze to state that he wasn’t happy about this turn of events, that he had been told his own surgeon would be performing this very tricky procedure.  He was by now fully prepped and drugged for the event, but was asked if he wished to leave and go home if he wasn’t happy.  At this late stage he decided to stay.

Later, all day later actually, waiting again to be ‘released’ to go home, we were told there were no doctors to sign us out, in fact there was only the one doctor anyway and she was tied up with an emergency.  We had to wait.  Wait.  Wait.  Eventually she arrived.  Of course she knew nothing of what had occurred during the surgery as she wasn’t there but set about trying to explain, by reading some notes, what had ocurred, though we could have done that ourselves.  She was fine until we asked any specific questions when she became flummoxed and tried in vain to see in the notes something that wasn’t mentioned.  We let her off.

Afterall we were promised another follow up appointment would be coming in the post.

Posted by: Scribble | 26/06/2008

The Wedding Day

And so a year after my niece had announced she was getting married, the day had finally arrived.  Where did the year go?  365 days have just vanished, gone.  What did they mean to me? In truth this year was much like the one before and the one before that.  The difference was The Wedding  in this one. 

Much thought and planning had gone into it.  It was after all, the first one my sister had to plan. This was the first of her two daughters to be married and as with all ‘first’ occasions, it was planned with enthusiastic care.  From the design of the dress to the fresh rose petals thrown as confetti, every detail was thought out, church flowers, house flowers, food, service arrangements, music, pretty orchids by the table place names, all came together to make a superb day.

Fortune shone on the brave and the bride, the sun came out, the wind died down and the rain disappeared.

Tears streaked down the face of the bride to be, when I found her upstairs in her parent’s house surrounded by her bridesmaids.  Emotionally exhausted now that the day had finally arrived and the significance of becoming Mrs and no longer Miss together with leaving her family home, threatened to ruin the pre wedding photos.  She came into the kitchen and we poured ‘rescue remedy’ drops into her mouth and finally she was ready.

The church had a lovely warm feel to it, bright, full of flowers and colourful guests buzzing in anticipation.  I told myself I wouldn’t cry when I saw my brother in law bring his daughter down the aisle.  I saw his fixed smile contain the emotion that he must have felt at giving away the lovely girl at his side.  No more his cheeky little girl but a grown woman that he must give to the significant man in her life.  With calm and grace he brought her to the alter, his lovely girl in her beautiful dress. Job done with poise and polish.

The service seemed to be over in a flash and all at once we were singing the final hymn, the rousing Jerusalem, guaranteed to bring a lump to the throat of any Englishman.  I felt tears threaten at the back of my eyes but held them in check.  And there they were, gliding down the aisle, Mr and Mrs, smiles of relief on their faces, tears long forgotten.

Fortunately for all the ladies in heels, it was a short walk to the house from the church and soon we were all assembled in the garden with champagne and delicious canapes, diets forgotten now.  I looked across the garden at my other niece, chief bridesmaid looking gorgeous in her green/blue long dress, hair elegantly arranged, she looked superb.  My nephews, on duty as ushers also looked fine in their morning suits, bright and shiny as new pins, beaming with pride at their lovely sisters.  My own son, younger, was in a very smart gray suit with a pink carnation button hole to match a pale pink shirt and blue and pink silk tie.  They all looked fantastic.

My sister, remarkably calm throughout the entire day, (think she must have had the ‘rescue remedy’ too) looked far too young to have a married daughter.  She wore a very smart cream skirt and brown linen short jacket and super hat and heels. All the months of anxious anticipation gone, she was relaxed now that the service was over. She moved about the guests, talking here and there and seemed to enjoy the day.  I spotted her at the table with the new in-laws and she seemed outwardly serene, though  I saw her picking at her food as she sometimes does, still a few nerves perhaps likely due to the stress of hosting the occasion. 

We had a very good sit down lunch of either cold beef with prettily arranged salad and new potatoes or salmon in filo pastry.  I plumped for the the beef which was superb, tender and tasty and the puds were exceptional, little summer puddings, a lemon mousse in a round gingersnap basket and a very rich chocolate mousse in a tiny glass.

All in all it was a very traditional wedding.  All too soon, the bride and groom were changed and ready to leave in a fabulous white Rolls Royce.  The bride knew nothing of where they were going but we knew they were off to catch the Eurostar to Paris and then on to the Maldives.  Baskets of scented rose petals were handed round to throw over the couple, their heady fragrance so romantic, cool and silky in my hot hands.

The guests drifted home, (and there’s absolutely no need to mention that my young son had gone about finishing off other peoples drinks across the tables, last seen zigzagging across the garden) and as the last ones left, I saw my sister, back in jeans and shirt leap in the air with joy and relief – the day was over, daughter married and safely off on her honeymoon.  Before long we had all changed into comfy clothes, relieved to get the pinching shoes off, free from the constraints of hats and ties.

That evening we sat in the poolhouse over looking the pool, the ones that were left.  Family and close friends made up a party of happy people.  We chatted over a delicious bar-b-Que, drank more champagne and laughingly set about discussing the event.  A post mortem was in order.

Posted by: Scribble | 17/06/2008

Fields Alive with the Sound of Music

I take myself and Skinny off for a walk through the giant fields that lie near our house. The sun is comfortingly warm and the soothing breeze blows away unhappy thoughts.  I listen carefully as Skinny and I walk down through the track, to a multitude of little voices, chattering away, singing, pipping and quarelling high up in the sky and over the fields.  The whispering wind coaxes me along, soothing my soul, softly bending my psyche.

Bright red poppies that populate the hedgerows, spill across the green corn fields like pretty ribbons, their colour strong and glorious against young emerald ears. Two Siskins sit atop two ears, caught momentarily as they balance on the tips, swaying slightly.  They look around with high vantage to see Skinny racing between the neat rows as she gives chase to a Pheasant hen she has disturbed from her nest.  I look lazily at the scene content in the knowledge that this game has been played before and Skinny will be the loser.

Too early, I note for the Swallows.  They swoop at dusk, diving and skimming the air above the rich fields, pointed tails stark against the sky, then gleaming and shimmering as the sun catches dark blue wings, twisting and turning.

Large stripey Bumble Bees, bright yellow and black, seek out the dipping heads of the wanton flowers, humming happily, they carry out their task.  Sweet smells and plentiful bounty, knees heavy with bright pollen, they weave their way from one lovely bloom to the next.  Such infinite variety, yet designed with utmost care.

I watch Skinny affectionately, see her delight and happy disposition as she checks her usual haunts, focused on the important matter at hand, oblivious to all else.  Her honey coat will afford her cover when the corn turns golden.  Soon she will be a shadow of speed and daring.  I feel the ghosts of others at her shoulder, willing her along to share the adventure.

Home.  Skinny sleeps and dreams.

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